Have you noticed that? I think when it became very apparent to me was after my divorce. Married 17 years, dated for 2 years. Since we met when I was 16, this was over half of my life. Even though the divorce was a necessary evil, I say that because I was losing the ability to be a good mom, it was still very painful. I found that going to DivorceCare was very helpful for me, but it seemed that things I had to say helped others. That’s when I realized all my pain was being used for something good.
I have a friend who says “God wastes nothing”, everything has a purpose even when we can’t see it. I don’t know why I’m a widow at this point. I know that both the men I dated after my divorce have passed away, and they passed away within 8 days of each other. So, it’s abundantly clear to me that I’m supposed to be single at this time…. “why?” remains to be solved. I may never know the “why” in this life time. But I have been drawing near to my Heavenly Father to find my way, to find “what now”.
James 4:8a Come near to God and He will come near to you.
Seek to use your pain to help others. It lightens your own burden and brings a measure of peace.
Father, help us to be open to sharing our heartaches with others so that we might be a light for them. A light for easing what they are going through and a lighted path to You. Amen
Grace Under Pressure 